Pediatricians are asked frequently about the timing and method for toilet learning. As with many behavioral issues, there are no concrete answers to such questions. Reaching this developmental milestone can be difficult for both the child and parents. To help facilitate the toilet learning process, physicians should inform parents about the ‘child-oriented’ approach before the process starts, and they should be prepared to offer anticipatory guidance to parents as the child learns toileting skills.
The age at which parents initiate a child’s toilet learning and the age at which it is considered appropriate for a child to be toilet trained have changed over the years. The relatively ‘laissez-faire’ approach to toilet learning taken at the beginning of the 1900s was replaced by the the more rigid ‘parent-centered’ approach of the 1920s and 1930s. These approaches were subsequently rejected in favor of the child-oriented approach advocated by Spock and Brazelton, which has become the mainstay of advice provided by physicians. This shift in approach has made it acceptable for children to achieve this developmental milestone at a later age.
Important cultural differences exist between the methods used to toilet train a child. Most children in western countries achieve bladder and bowel control between 24 and 48 months of age. Girls tend to achieve this control at a slightly younger age than boys. The average time from the initiation of toilet learning to the attainment of independent toileting varies from three to six months. The attainment of bladder control does not always coincide with the achievement of bowel control, and night time urinary continence may coincide with daytime continence or occur several months or years later. The toileting process encompasses a great deal of heterogeneity, and there is no specific age at which toilet learning should begin.
Assessing a child’s readiness for toilet learning
Toilet learning readiness should not be dictated by a child’s chronological age. Rather, as the child-oriented approach advocates, a child must be physiologically and psychologically ready to begin the process. Parents should be prepared to devote attention and patience to the task on a daily basis for several months.
For the child, physiological readiness precedes psychological readiness. By the time a child reaches 18 months of age, reflex sphincter control has matured and myelination of extrapyramidal tracts has occurred; both processes are necessary for bowel and bladder control. These processes cannot be accelerated. Psychological maturation, however, is not necessarily achieved in concordance with physiological maturation.
When assessing a child’s readiness for toilet learning, the physician must consider motor, language and social milestones, as well as the child’s demeanor and relationship with his or her parents. A checklist of a child’s toilet learning readiness is in Table 1.
Child-oriented toilet learning techniques
Parental expectations about toilet learning should be assessed by the physician at the child’s first-year visit. This is an opportunity to provide anticipatory guidance because most parents underestimate the time required to complete the process. The child-oriented approach (explained below) should be discussed at subsequent visits, with the physician emphasizing that the age for toilet learning should be flexible. When the child is about 18 months of age, the toilet learning readiness of the child and parents can be assessed, keeping in mind cultural differences. Parents and all caregivers should be ready to initiate toilet learning by ensuring that time is set aside for the process and that the arrangements are suitable for the entire family. The toilet learning process should not be initiated at a stressful time in the child’s life (eg, after a move or after the birth of a new sibling), and parents should be prepared emotionally for the inevitable accidents that will occur before the process is completed. Parents should be encouraged to follow their child’s cues to progress from one stage to the next, as outlined in Table 2. Further visits to the doctor can be used to assess progress while providing a forum to discuss issues that may arise.
Table 1: Signs of a child’s toilet learning readiness
• Able to walk to the potty chair (or adapted toilet seat)
• Stable while sitting on the potty (or adapted toilet seat)
• Able to remain dry for several hours
• Receptive language skills allow the child to follow simple (one- and two-step) commands
• Expressive language skills permit the child to communicate the need to use the potty (or adapted toilet seat) with words or reproducible gestures
• Desire to please based on positive relationship with caregivers
• Desire for independence, and control of bladder and bowel function
A potty chair is recommended rather than a toilet during the early stages because children feel more secure and stable on the potty. The potty also provides the best biomechanical position for the child.
Initially, the child is encouraged to sit fully dressed on the potty. Next, the toddler is encouraged to sit on the potty after a wet or soiled diaper has been removed. It may be helpful to place the soiled diaper in the potty to demonstrate its function. At a later date, the child can be led to the potty several times a day and encouraged to sit on it for a few minutes without wearing a diaper. Finally, the child is encouraged to develop a routine of sitting on the potty at specific times in the day (eg, after waking in the morning, after meals or snacks, and before naps and bedtime). Using this method, the child may gain control of bladder and bowel function in a few weeks.
TABLE 2: How parents can facilitate a child’s toilet learning
Decide on the vocabulary to use. Ensure the potty chair and position are easily accessible. Allow the child to watch his or her parents use the toilet.
If a regular toilet is used, use a toilet seat adapter and a foot stool.
Encourage the child to tell a parent when he or she needs to void. Give praise upon success, even if the child tells the parent after the fact. Learn the child’s behavioral cues when he or she is about to void.
Encourage the child with praise. Do not expect immediate results; expect accidents. Avoid punishment and/or negative reinforcement.
Ensure the cooperation of all caregivers to provide a consistent approach.
After repeated successes, suggest the use of cotton underwear or training pants. Make this a special moment.
The child needs to be praised whenever he or she expresses an interest in sitting on the potty. Positive reinforcement may be used with this approach, but material rewards should be discouraged. Stickers and charts are in order, yet encouragement and support are more appropriate reinforcement techniques.
Once the child has used the potty successfully for one week or more, he or she may be ready to try training pants or cotton underpants. Accidents are inevitable however, and parents need to be supportive and patient. A child who has experienced a series of accidents soon after trying training pants or cotton underpants should be allowed to return to diapers without shame or punishment.
At times, children may be reluctant to pass stool in a potty or the toilet, particularly if they do not have good support for their feet. At this time, it is imperative that they be allowed to continue having bowel movements in a diaper to prevent the development of constipation and, consequently, painful bowel movements, which will further delay the toilet learning process.
Organic causes of failure in toilet learning are not common. The most likely explanation for failure is that the child is not ready. If the child is not ready, parents’ attempts to toilet train him or her will be futile. Parents should be advised not to engage in ‘toileting battles’, which damage the parent-child relationship and the child’s self-image, and may hinder progress in acquiring toileting skills.
If a child expresses toileting refusal, a one- to three-month break from training is suggested. This allows trust and cooperation to be re-established between parent and child. After this break, most children are ready to begin training. However, if repeated attempts are unsuccessful or if the child is older than four years, a referral to a general pediatrician or to a developmental pediatrician may be required. The referral may be necessary to explore aspects of the parent-child relationship and to rule out physical and/or neurodevelopmental abnormalities.
Constipation may complicate toilet learning readiness. A child may associate bowel movements with pain and, therefore, try to avoid the experience as much as possible. Dietary changes are the first step in alleviating this problem, and the use of stool softeners or laxatives may also be considered. A more complete review of the treatment of constipation is beyond the scope of this statement.
Children with special needs
Identifying the best time for toilet learning for the child with special needs is as important as it is for his or her peers. Although the stages of toilet readiness are identical for all children, the demands of the child with special needs require the pediatrician to ascertain the degree to which the child is hampered in toileting (eg, by social and adaptive delays and/or by medications) and when the parents are prepared to begin the toilet learning process. A comprehensive study of this important topic is recommended for physicians involved in the care of children with special needs.
The process of toilet learning has changed significantly over the years and within different cultures. In western culture, a child-centered approach, where the timing and methodology of toilet learning is individualized as much as possible, is recommended.
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For each one of these vocabulary words we have been relating them in our classroom. During Creativity Class they were able to wrap some gifts while we explained that this is a season of giving and that Santa brings toys to the boys and girls who behave themselves! Most of them were able to tell us what they would like Santa to bring them: motorcycles, ipads, cars, swings,& dolls were some of the items mentioned…..
When we talked about elves, or Santa´s helpers, our Terrific Tigers got dressed up as elves and they were happy to pretend to be one of them! They enjoyed “helping” Santa prepare all the toys! We got to see a little part of the wonderful movie:”Frozen” which is a beautiful movie related to this Christmas time!
During Creativity Class they have been busy working on our Christmas gifts for mom and dad, a lovely “Frosty the Snowman”!
Physical Development has been all about practicing and rehearsing for this special presentation we will have on Tuesday.They are excited about presenting for you and have been dancing and dancing!
Stories that have been read to them this week include titles, such as Spot´s First Christmas, Merry Christmas Mom and Dad, Mickey Mouse Santa´s Helper, Santa´s sleigh, My Santa Claus, Little Critter Christmas Book, Ho, Ho, Ho, Wee Mouse,&Christmas Day.
We are looking forward in having our Christmas Festival on Tuesday, December 13th at Candy Gum . (Plaza San Pedro) Our little ones have been practing very much and will be so happy to be able to perform for you!
This week was such a fun experience for the Terrific Tigers! They really enjoyed dancing to all the Halloween songs like “The Scarecrow”, “Dem Bones”, “Happy Halloween”, ” Witch Doctor”, and “Witches `Brew.” During Physical Education they danced and used hula hoops, pon-poms, tamborines, and even dressed up in different costumes!
Our students also had a blast working on a spider web and pumpkin in Creativity Class.
Mr. Mike´s Circle Time was a favorite this week, as usual. The kids enjoyed dancing and role playing as goblins, ghosts, and spiders. They also love getting spooked!
Stories read to them this week included Pumpkin Faces, It´s Pumpkin Time, Halloween Treats, What is Halloween?, Who’s there on Halloween, and The Biggest Pumpkin Surprise Ever. They really enjoyed listening to these Halloween stories.
We practiced walking slowly and carefully for our parade on Thursday and they were really excited about this important event. Most of them were able to let us know what costume they would wear for this special day at school!
Finally, we had our Despicable Halloween Parade and Party on Wednesday. It was wonderful to see all the kids dressed up and sharing candy with each other. The candy give-away made for a great sharing exercise.
It was very nice to see all the parents who were able to make it to the costume parade. We even saw some of our students´ grandparents, too! All the kids were excited, and were able to walk through the “haunted house” and get some great pictures.
We want to give a special thanks to the parents who helped out with food and beverages this year. Also, a big thank you to ALL of you parents who dressed their child up for the party. Great job! Your kids all looked adorable! (more than usual).
Our Mystery Bag activity continues to be such an excitement for our kids and we really appreciate your helping your child in bringing something special from home when it is her/his turn!
November is almost here and we are ready to learn more about sharing and caring, about food, and of course, about being appreciative and giving thanks.
Once the weather changes and your kids start bringing sweaters to school, it is very important for them to have their names on them so they will not get misplaced at the end of the day.
We hope you have a fun and wonderful weekend, and are looking forward to welcoming your little ones to school again on Monday!
- You must have a warm, smiling face that makes every child feel special and loved.
- You must be able to laugh at jokes that you don’t understand, or you don’t find funny. Child humor can be a confusing minefield to navigate.
- You will preferably have a little bit of quirkiness. If a child requests that you be the captain of a pirate ship, you will be the best pirate captain you can be.
- You must feel comfortable telling everybody in the same room as you, that you are going to use the bathroom.
- The ability to sing in tune is not necessary, however the ability to sing out of tune in front of a crowd is essential.
- Some knowledge of Frozen, Minions, Spiderman, Ariel, Peppa Pig, Octonauts, Thomas the tank engine and Sofia the first would be advantageous.
- A high level of multitasking is essential. If something would normally take 5 minutes to achieve, you must be comfortable with it taking 15 minutes or longer.
- You must be able to distribute warm hugs as required.
- Possessing the skills required to rapidly count the heads of numerous moving small people is of utmost importance.
- Must be comfortable entering public places on the way home from work with unknown substances on your clothing.
- You must have a high level of comfort around talking about bodily functions. You must also have a strong sense of smell to enable you to respond swiftly to said bodily functions.
- You preferably do not have an aversion to an environment that at times resembles the aftermath of a tornado.
- You must be able to remain focused in environments with high noise levels.
- Pretending to eat playdough creations realistically is required, this is a skill that may develop with time and experience.
- The ability to remember the names of 40+ children, their parents, siblings, grandparents, pets and special soft toys is a key component of this job. Again, this is something that will develop over time.
- You must feel comfortable sitting on furniture that does not contain all of your behind.
- A high level of comfort with being asked personal questions by children is essential. You will regularly be asked questions regarding what you are having for lunch, whether you are willing to share said lunch, whether or not you are married, and if not, why you are not married, where you are going (as you walk into the toilet), and what you did in there (the toilet).
- You must have an understanding that the small people you have a strong relationship with during the week, may completely and utterly refuse to talk to or acknowledge you when they see you at the local store. Your feelings must not be easily hurt.
- You must have the ability to read a ten page fairytale with at least one interruption per page.
- Authentically showing an interest in and curiosity for bugs and creepy crawlies is essential, even if they are your biggest fear on earth.
- You must be prepared to have a lot of fun in the workplace. Laughter is something you can expect to engage in for a large part of your working day.
- Finally, you must be prepared to feel loved, special, and important to many young children and their families. There is simply no other job quite like this one.
As in previous years, this summer we will be offering a six week Summer Camp for children up to age 8. This year all activities are based on the Pirates and Princesses theme. Kids are grouped by age levels and will be rotating through centers for active music, story telling and dramatization, creative arts and crafts, circle time, snack and outdoor play. For further information on dates, schedules and costs, please call 8356-8344 & 8356-8330 from Mon-Fri 8:00am to 2:00pm and Mon-Thurs 3:00pm-5:00pm.